Several days ago, I met with one lady and heard a very interesting story from her.
After she became a Contemporary Feng Shui consultant, although she lives in Tokyo, she was able to do many consultations throughout Japan, in places like Kyushu and Osaka and so on and she did many consultations over the year.
Thanks to this, she was able to see the results and benefits of Feng Shui. One person threw away about 80% of the stuff in their house and they had many changes in their life occur very quickly and they experienced big changes in their good fortune.
Her client realized deeply the connection between the stuff they have in their house and their emotions. They realized that these things affect each other on a level that they didn't know about before. They were able to look at what they have and decide what they really want, and what they don't. They were able to decide if the things they had were aligned with what they wanted in their life and if it didn't then they found a way to get rid of that thing.
One client threw away about 80% of the things they owned! Another client threw away clothes and furniture and replaced some of these with new items that better fitted their lives.
What happened in their lives after they did this? Here are just a few of the things they noticed:
One client received a big project that he had never expected to receive.
One client became friends with a celebrity. She felt this kind of person was above her status level, but after making changes she was able to meet and become friends with such a person.
One client began a love relationship with a rich man who even has his own private jet!
This is just a few of the amazing results.
The Feng Shui consultant was so amazed by the things that happened in her clients' lives. She said that she recommended the clients throw away a lot of things, but she personally couldn't throw away as much of her belongings. She was so impressed by the changes in her clients' lives that she too wanted to throw away more. She realized that throwing out things was so important and always asking yourself, "do I want this item in my life?" or "is this item aligned with what I want in my life?"
Throwing away 80% of the things you own is almost like major surgery on your house! It is almost like a death and rebirth situation.
I still have my own problem. I have a lot of things in my house, I have many clothes I don't wear anymore and I have a lot of books, too, many of which are complete sets of series, but I will never read these again.
I wrote about throwing away 80% of your things, but this doesn't mean that you have to throw away everything, or make a lot of garbage. We are not focused on throwing away everything. If we focus on throwing away things, then we will end up believing that empty white space is the best sort of space to invite good fortune. This is not the point.
Throwing away things is the result - the most important thing is to look once more at what we have, and decide what of those things do I like? What things make me feel happy and comfortable? What things do I want to use my time and energy on in my life?
The key is rethink the focus of our life. This is a chance to think about our life's focus, and how the things we already have help or hinder us achieve this focus. This process is the work we must do to attract new energy. The process is what is important for changing our lives.
When we leave our house, there is a lot of information coming at us, through our eyes and ears and we cannot control this information. And unfortunately this information does affect us. Especially in downtown Tokyo, or other big cities, you are surrounding by noisy sounds and sights.
Fortunately we can select what we want to have in our houses. We can decide what do we want to buy? What do we want to select? What do we not want to choose? A gift we received from somebody, or something we have used since we were a child... do we want to continue using that thing or keeping it in our life? We can make this decision.
When I visit people's houses, I often find people keep things that they don't really like or need, just because they feel guilty for throwing it away because it was a gift, or it would be a waste to throw it away. Most of us have spent money and bought a lot of cheap things; cheap furniture, cheap things from the 100 yen store, or cheap plastic umbrellas and so on. We need to get rid of these cheap things and fill our lives and houses with more quality items.
In fact, at the moment, I am training to become a Feng Shui consultant, and I have been to some houses to do my training. I advised some people to throw away the box that they keep their slippers in in the entrance.
These people told me that they don't have guests come to their house. Maybe once or twice a year people visit, however, they have 4 to 5 pairs of slippers in their slipper box in the entrance hall. They don't use them! They think "someone might come" so they prepare the slippers, but they are wasting space in their narrow and small entrance area, for something that they don't need.
Also, I went to one lady's house and she had a spare futon stored in her closet that she used only once or twice a year when guests stayed with her. She lives in a very small apartment and the futon takes up such a lot of cupboard space and is a waste of space really.
In fact, several years ago, I decided not to have a futon for guests. I moved into a very small apartment with a very small closet. When I threw out the guest futon, I felt a clear feeling of "this is my space, for my life". And when a friend came to my town to visit, I decided to reserve a hotel room for them, or if they didn't mind, they could stay at my house in a sleeping bag.
Of course, that meant I was spending money on their hotel room cost, but that is a better use of my resources than keeping a spare futon in my cupboard space for the other 364 days when it wouldn't get used. We need to be more ruthless! Once you stop wanting other people to think you are a good person (because, for example, you have a spare futon ready for them to stay at any time) your life will become easier.
When I tidy up my house I try to remember that everything has information. And I imagine what kind of information it is and what kind of energy that thing has. And then I decide whether I want to keep it or throw it away. Even if it is inside a cupboard or drawer and you can't see it, these things have information for us too. And we need to tidy up the things in our drawers, too.
And I found that when I tidy up my house I downsize as much as possible and this has not caused me any problems at all. This means that we already have enough. And it means that we will use the things we have much more carefully and possibly buy less in the future, too.
A few days ago I attended the Tony Robbins workshop in Japan. In the workshop they had lots of booths and they were giving away many things to the attendees for free. Some booths were giving away CDs and books for free. There were long lines of people queuing to get these free gifts. However, I and a feng shui friend I went there with didn't line up to get anything, because we didn't want those things even if they were free.
What percent of the things you own are really necessary for your life? If you decided to decrease what you own by 80% what would you keep as the remaining 20%?
If I promised that your life would improve greatly if you decreased your belongings by 80% would you take action to do this?
Holidays or changes in the season are a good time to tidy up our houses, let's do this!
Ps. This is not only things - we need to say goodbye to relationships in our lives that we no longer need, too. If we create time and space in our lives then new experiences and relationships will come our way.
Temple Beautiful Mail Magazine No.531. April. 19, 2014